Thursday, 18 February 2021

Caroline celebrates her 40th birthday in Lockdown

Yes my darling Caroline turned 40 this week.

Being 40 feels like a major milestone - not just for Caroline but also for me because she really isn't a child any more but, of course, she will always be my little girl.

Sadly, we are now in a third national lockdown and Caroline had to celebrate her birthday at home.  Gatherings and celebrations planned for milestone birthdays have been cancelled across the country as people follow the guidance to stop the spread of coronavirus.  Seeing friends and family, heading to the pub, dancing until your feet hurt - none of that's possible right now.  And while that's sad and difficult any day, it can feel especially bleak on a birthday.  But with a little ingenuity celebrating during these strange times can still tick almost all of the boxes.


That's right - jetting off on a ski-ing holiday is not on the cards.  But it should have been.  Caroline's birthdays nearly always occurred during the half term.  So off we would head to The Alps and this is exactly what they had planned with friends for her 40th birthday.


But Mike still made this lockdown birthday special by putting together video messages for Caroline from friends and family.  Sooooo good.  Friends also treated the birthday girl to the truly unique experience of a hot tub in their garden.


Although Caroline's birthday celebrations were thwarted there was no reason we couldn't get together and have a bit of a party with the family.  Onscreen, of course, and with cocktails.  Mike also arranged for Caroline to celebrate in style with cake and champagne and a delicious Italian dinner delivered to their door.


                                                                                 
                                                                                   
                                                                                      

So, for what it's worth, here are my thoughts about whether "Life really does begin at 40".

Enjoy your children's childhood.  Children can drive you mad at times, but they do need you to give them time and attention.  They grow up so quickly.  Are you sure you are 40!!!!!

Nowadays 40 really is no age at all.  So- you are now embarked on the second half of your life.  I hope you have a very happy, fulfilling and satisfying next 40 years and, like me, that you will have few regrets whatever choices you make.

It's been amazing watching you grow.  Thank you for the laughs, the kindness and the magic moments you bring to the World.  So proud of you EVERY day.  No matter how old you are you will always be my little girl.  Love you lots.  Wish I could give you a hug.

Happy 40th Birthday. XXXXXXXXX





Sunday, 24 January 2021

Snow brightens lockdown

The gloom of lockdown was lifted today by the unfamiliar glow of snow in Sandhurst.  By 11.00 a.m., much of Sandhurst was blanketed in a thick layer of snow. 


 Snow seems to bring out the big kid in everyone so we wrapped up warm, pulled on our boots and enjoyed a walk in the snow.


Even Milo and Rigby dressed up for the snow. (Sofia sent this photo).


Friday, 8 January 2021

Jamie is 7

 

Jamie, my grandson, is seven and growing up fast.  He's changing in a thousand different ways each day and each week and being in lockdown (again) it's hard to capture all the changes.  Despite the virus in the last year we've had some grand adventures and I hope we will have many, many more, especially our holidays abroad together which were cancelled this year.


Seven.  I can't believe the tiny baby you were is now a seven year old boy.  You've grown tall, obviously you take after your Daddy and not me, you've grown strong and you're growing into a funny, charming, chatty boy.  You're working hard at home schooling (this year's term at school was the shortest ever - one day!) and I can't ask for anything more than for you to try hard and listen to your teachers, via the internet, and your Mummy.

We've got so many hopes and dreams for you this year.  Work hard and carry on reading, especially Harry Potter, and learn to love books as I do.

Jamie requested a lemon drizzle Harry Potter cake for his birthday.  Well done Mummy.  Wish I could enjoy a slice.



We've done such fun things while you were six.

Beaulieu Motor Museum - January

Trip to Brownsea Island - August
The Isle of Wight - August
Your local beach - September
Crabbing - we caught so many!!
Kingston Lacy - October

Sadly we had to watch you open your Christmas presents via the internet but it was still fun.

Keep having brilliant times, making brilliant memories and keep being brilliant.  I want you to be happy, I want you to love life and everything about it.  Enjoy being seven Jamie, it's a great age to be and I hope, after I have had my vaccine, you'll let me join you on a few of your adventures this year.
Jamie's birthday present from us.  A remote control car.

Off to boogie now with you and your cousins  at your online Zoom disco.  Get the disco lights ready!

Happy birthday Jamie.


Tuesday, 29 December 2020

Christmas 2020

 

A time for sharing?

Not this year.  We spent the most magical time of the year on our own.

Our son didn't understand.

Our daughter thought we were being overly cautious but was surprisingly understanding when we called to break the news.  Instead of decamping to Bournemouth (Tier 2) to spend Christmas with the grandchildren playing games, eating and drinking (too much) and laughing, we were alone in Sandhurst (Tier 4).

We decorated the trees (3) pottered around, went for a long sunny walk, cooked a bird in a bird in a bird instead of a turkey and watched TV.





We did join the family on Facebook and watched the children open their presents whilst we sat in bed with a cup of tea.  Later we chatted and played games like online Pictionary and did a Harry Potter/Ninjago quiz in between catching up.








In normal times it would be unheard of for us to miss a family Christmas.  Every year for as long as I can remember I have spent the day with some of my family.  Unless we were out of the country on a trip with Dad we would have had a full Christmas dinner and presents under the tree.








But after a year of being cautious about Covid we didn't want to take unnecessary risks for the sake of one day.  Even though the government guidelines said we could.  I just couldn't see their logic.  It would be such a shame after nine months of real vigilance for it to go down the drain for one day.  It's not worth it.  It also doesn't change the fact that indoor unventilated settings are the worst possible environment for the virus.

We just binge-watched Designated Survivor on Netflix and ate and drunk as much as we wanted without worrying about driving.  I am probably the most cautious person in my family.  But I don't care; it's worse if I infect someone than if I'm a bit overly cautious.  If I had spent Christmas with them I'd have felt guilty, coming from Tier 4, aware I might be spewing the newly, more contagious, mutated form  whilst we were all trying to have a good time.



It was not a typical Christmas, but nothing about 2020 has been typical.  And I still count myself lucky.  We didn't spend the 25th with the family, but we will definitely celebrate once we have the vaccine.  We might even do a second Christmas of  our own, perhaps on the beach with a tree and Christmas hats.  And I will drop a line to Father Christmas to see if those naughty Elfs on the Shelf - Elfie and Hugo - will be allowed to join us just for the day and it will be fun for the grandchildren to get a second round of gifts and I imagine there might even be some waiting for me too!

                                                     Mike taking a dip on Christmas Day!!
                                                      Sadly Phil could not join him!!!


















Saturday, 12 December 2020

Put that cake DOWN

I underwent a routine blood test only to get a call from my doctor.  You have prediabetes, a condition where your blood sugar levels are higher than normal, but not high enough for a diagnosis of type 2 diabetes.

A prediabetes diagnosis sounds scary and it was.  But, the good news is reversing prediabetes is possible - with simple lifestyle changes.  With the help of the NHS and WW I have done this,  I am now NORMAL and more than one stone lighter.

Its a diagnosis that should be taken seriously, but with early intervention, such as following a healthy diet, maintaining a healthy weight, and getting regular exercise you can reduce the risk.

The NHS Diabetes Prevention Programme together with WW helped me to take control of my health, supporting me to make changes to my diet, weight and the exercise.

If you've had a bad day at work and the kids are driving you mad, we all know what will help: half a packet of chocolate digestives, that's what.  Except, of course, it won't.  So why is it that, when we're feeling stressed or hard done by, all we can think about is gorging ourselves on something tasty?  When we have any negative emotions (and with Covid 19 its especially hard) such as stress, boredom or fear, we want something to take our mind off it.  Some people turn to shopping, gambling or drugs.  But most of us use what's right under our nose - food.  From birth, food is our coping mechanism.  We're born, slapped on the bum and handed to our mother so she can feed us.  The comfort eating continues from there: a lollipop when we fall over in the playground, chocolate cake when our first love dumps us, a takeaway after a bad day at work.

We're not given the tools we need to cope with anger, hurt, resentment, pain and loneliness, instead we're taught that food can make all our disappointments more bearable.  The good news is that no matter why we comfort eat, we can break the cycle.  As long as we know how.

OK I know it's not that easy but the amazing WW coaches helped.

Choose the right foods (and don't forget to practice portion control).  Consider switching to a smaller plate and drinking a full glass of water with every meal to curb your appetite.  Avoid certain foods.  Diet has a big impact on blood glucose levels.  Limit saturated fats and refined carbohydrates.  Minimise your consumption of processed meats and anything made with white flour such as pizza, pasta and sugary foods such as ice cream, milk chocolate and juice.  Other foods to avoid or limit if you're working on reversing prediabetes include fried foods and high calorie, high fat foods.  Increase your fibre intake.  I thought I was getting enough but 30 grams of porridge is NOT 30 grams of fibre!  Eating non-starchy vegetables is a great way to reach this goal. Talk to family and friends about pre-diabetes.  It's just really important for your health you keep a close eye on what and how much you eat.  Don't let pressure from anyone else sway you from your efforts.

To help WW provides an app which allows you to track everything you eat, providing point values for common packaged and branded food, fresh ingredients, and even chain restaurant dishes.  If packaged items don't come up when you search, you can add them into the app by in putting nutritional values.  You  can even use the app to input the recipes you make frequently at home, and it'll calculate how many points make up one serving.  But the best part is that it has a barcode scanner, so you can essentially just take a picture of an item at the supermarket and immediately know its point value.  This feature has really helped me to understand how and why certain foods are valued the way they are.  When I first started WW it was extremely helpful to pre-track all the things I planned to eat in a day.  I did this by mapping out my week's meals so I knew exactly what days I'd need to save extra points for, and what meals would take up more or less of them.  It takes time and patience to lose weight, but the app really does work.  I've lost about one pound a week on average using the app but I've learned to give myself the flexibility to occasionally stay stagnant or put a few pounds back on especially when we will be allowed to go on holiday again.  It has helped me to think about weight management and healthy eating as a lifelong goal as opposed to a short-term diet.

Drinking water is also important to stay properly hydrated.  The amount of water you drink can play a role in how your body regulates blood sugar.  Most people need to drink 8 -10 cups of water each day.  I also cut down on my wine intake!!!

Based on my WW coaches recommendations I also focused on daily exercise for at least 30 minutes per day.  Exercise helps with weight loss, but also trains muscles to become better at removing sugar from the bloodstream.

Getting at least seven hours of high quality sleep per night is also very important.  Sleep deprivation has been shown to increase insulin resistance.

The key is to change your behaviour around weight, diet, physical activity and sleep.  To be honest this isn't easy and must be an ongoing personal process.

So I did all of the above for 6 months (3 months in lockdown) and went for another blood test fully confident that my sugar levels would be lower.  BUT NO they had gone up.  I was distraught but after talking to the nurse decided to stick with the programme.  The NHS were paying for this and I didn't want to waste their money.  The nurse told me to eat less fruit, especially tropical fruit as this is very high in sugar and not to drink orange juice for breakfast.  But the biggest factor was probably due to STRESS and the Corona virus.  When we're stressed, our body releases the hormone cortisol, which keeps our brains on danger alert.  By maintaining high blood-sugar levels, we feel we're ready for action - which is why we want sugary foods when we're stressed.  So I have learnt to relax more.  Everyone has stress but doing things that make you happy - like watching the sunset or chatting with a friend - can help you stay calm.

I really found that attending the workshops weekly (initially at the community centre and then via Zoom) helped.  Workshops are like therapy.  It's a community and all the members are happy for me and that spurs me on.  I also get some great tips.  The support is wonderful.  To be honest we all struggle but the coaches help to keep me positive and on track.  

It's easy enough if you've got an iron will.  Sometimes you can get bored with eggs.  Bored stiff avoiding the french bread.  Really very, very bored with staying off the booze.  I must be strong though.  I have been taught it isn't a total disaster if I encounter the odd slippage.  I'm sure EVERYONE breaks the programme at least once a week.  Slips can be compensated for by reverting to the attack phase and being firm.  You have to make an effort.  It is a small war and you have to be a good soldier.  I want to eliminate the problem of diabetes for the rest of my life.

Thank you NHS for putting me on the WW programme and an especially large thank you to my coaches, Mandip, Nina, Lin and Lisa.  The app is great but your support is better.  I was so sad this week to learn that a lot of hard working coaches have been made redundant.